BuzzZin Stilettos Comic PART 1 / Lutonya M Lang

THANK YOU

I would like to thank all those who came out to support the soft launch of BuzzZin Off Magazine in Chicago this past Tuesday! It was great! I have posted a customized Thank You card from my new hand illustrated greeting cards set to debut this summer!

Created by: Melissa Magazine Illustrations by: Adrian Massenburg of Massenburg Visual Works

Special Thank You’s:

My Parents, sister & family for their support of me love you much! Lutonya M. Lang, IndustryBuzzZ.com members, contributors, sponsors, Be 2 Different & Beyond, LLF Jewelry Co, Valante Grant TheByDesignNetwork, Adrian Massenburg of Massenburg Visual Works, Ashley Glover, Clarrie Johnson, Adrienne Grant of Creative Hands Photography & Videography, Kalinda Preston of Undiscovrd, Dwayne Hirsch Business Network Spotlight, all in attendance & Clara Magazine who’s the inspiration of the writer in me & Clara’s House Greeting Cards, I love you! xoxo ~Melissa Magazine~

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RAINBOW

Recently I watched the movie For Colored Girls. I personally like the movie and here’s why;


First of all it’s artistic and unusual. I haven’t seen a movie with poetry being its main focus that has the ability to exhibit strong content in resemblance to everyday life. I believe that Tyler Perry done an excellent job on scripting and directing a book of poetry into film. The movie was based off of the book, “For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow is Good Enuf: A Chorepoem” by Ntozake Shange. Secondly, I love the way he introduced several people’s journey and connected them while revealing some hidden issues not just for African American women but people in general. The actors and actresses were phenomenal in portraying each character on film. You believed them. I don’t care who you are and where you come from…you will see yourself directly or indirectly in this film. Also, Black Girls Rock, a production aired on BET that was well put together. It focused on positivity and the acknowledgment of African American women who leads by example…that has successfully pioneered their role or place in whatever industry they reign in. I really appreciate Beverly Bond for the vision of orchestrating this first televised production.

It’s important to see people go through some dire circumstances, to see that they wanted to give up on life and STILL push their way through. Their story is your story. You are a living autobiography. Every detail, every word spoken or unspoken is your resonating template for someone else to follow. Please understand that you could be someone else’s answer. Life is a gift. I pray that you all cherish it and take it seriously. I hope you all choose to live and let the unspoken works of your life be an example of inspiration and strength that will breathe life for someone else.

If you need help don’t be afraid to seek it. Your life is worth living and YOU ARE VALUABLE. Here’s a link: http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ and a national hotline number: 1-800-273-TALK (8255), a free, 24-hour hotline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. Your call will be routed to the nearest crisis center to you.

• Call for yourself or someone you care about

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• A network of more than 140 crisis centers nationwide

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Red Nacional de Prevención del Suicidio

Cuando usted llama al número 1-888-628-9454, su llamada se dirige al centro de ayuda de nuestra red disponible más cercano. Cuando el centro contesta su llamada, usted estará hablando con una persona que le escuchará, le hará preguntas y hará todo lo que esté a su alcance para ayudarlo. Para información en español haga clic aquí.

For Hearing and Speech Impaired with TTY Equipment: 1-800-799-4TTY (4889)

Infidelity Q & A

Hello guys we told you that we would answer those questions from our previous blog, Infidelity. Here are the Q's:  Would you ever tell your sibling's spouse that you knew that your sibling cheated in their marriage?  Would you lie if they asked you? Why & Why not ?

  

Our answers are below. Feel free to give your opinion on the questions and post your comments. Let us know how you feel about the subject.

 

Sister Kristy: I would not volunteer the answer to my sister's spouse. I would evade the question if directly asked. I do not feel it would be my place to tell such loaded information. I would leave it up to my "cheating sister" to come clean to her husband.

  

Sister Melissa: I agree with my sister.  I would not volunteer any information.  If I was asked I would simply tell him to ask his wife.

Would your opinion of your sibling change if you knew they slept with someone married? 

 

Sister Kristy: My opinion would not change of my sister. I would be disappointed in her. But it is no different from other times in which she did something that I did not approve of. 

 

 

Sister Melissa: My opinion wouldn't change but she would definitely know how I felt about it.  It's not my place to judge her & she knows right from wrong.

INFIDELITY....THE STORY BEHIND THE STORY

SISTER KRISTY: Okay, so I was encouraged to blog about a situation I found myself in recently. I’m going to keep it short & sweet. I found myself attracted to a married man. He would flirt with me, but it was very subtle. It wasn’t something that was vulgar or outright disrespectful. He would say normal conversational pieces like, “how was your day “, “I like your outfit “or “you have beautiful skin “. But this was not the real issue. The issue was the way he looked at me while he said it. It wasn’t a leer it was a look of appreciation that one gives to another when they find them attractive. So Even though on paper it was all innocent interactions, I found myself thinking about this dude and wanting to be in his company. He’s charming, charismatic, and funny with a hint of danger. That was when I drew up the red flag. I have been approached by married men before, but I have never been attracted to one nor have I ever hesitated to send them packing. I could not understand why I was even thinking about this man and craving more conversations with him like: politics, health, music, movies whatever, all very short conversations but obviously enough for me to get caught up mentally. So the next time we came into contact with each other I pulled him to the side & stated that it was clear that we were attracted to one another. I asked that we respectively stop flirting with each other because he was not available to flirt as a married man. Now once again nothing we talked about could have been noted as flirting but I KNEW that was what it was because of the way I felt when I talked to him and the way he looked at me while we talked. I started to agonize over what I couldn’t prove to be flirting but…it all felt very wrong and dirty and secretive. There was a magnetic pull between us with simple greetings like “hello, how are you? “ Never did he ask me out, never did I offer him any type of affection but it still felt wrong. So I chose to have the conversation and asked respectively that we stopped flirting. He said that he would & asked what would my actions be? I told him that I would also. Although neither one of us knew exactly what we would be stopping per say because it was all surface conversation, but whatever unspoken thing we were doing to one another we agreed to stop.

       After that pivotal conversation, I had to give him one more pep talk, in which I laid down rules of communication of things he could not say to me. If he couldn’t adhere, I told him that there would be a seen caused and that it would lead to violence. At this point after talking to him and sharing the blame of our flirting and he still didn’t get it I got angry that I allowed myself to even be in this position. That next time he said something to me that I deemed inappropriate “good morning” with that look, I was prepared to fight. I never thought I would be attracted to a married man let alone desire to spend time with him. I actually entertained the thought of a kiss, touch, phone conversation, or an outing with a MARRIED MAN. It was definitely a learning experience. I thought it couldn’t happen to me but it did. I entertained way more mentally in the situation that I ever thought I was capable of.
       The only thing that saved me was praying to God about my thoughts and what I was tempted to do. I know what the bible says on this issue it is very clear. Imagining yourself with someone else is the same as being with that person in reality. I refused to have that on my account. That is not something that I want Jesus to ask me about when I get to heaven. Desiring a married man, No, I think not.

SISTER MELISSA: I know that my sister only entertained thoughts & flirted but I’m taking it all the way to what the outcome will be if not interrupted. We have all found ourselves thinking or doing something that we know in our hearts is wrong. You know we all have our different paths to complete, our destiny or journey, but we ALL have a sense of what is Right & what is Wrong. People do what they want & don’t take into account the whole picture. Yes, it is the individual choice, but it affects more than just you. When you decided to marry then YOU decide to uphold, you decide to include YOUR whole family when you make your choice for temporary pleasure. Temporary, surely will not keep you when the final outcome of your temporary insanity of lust cause you a permanent outcome. We are the choices that we make. Yes, we make wrong decisions. We make hard one sometimes. I think we would do better when we know better & we know better if we know who we are. Ladies, you are not desperate. You don’t have to share. Respect yourselves & demand respect. How would you feel if someone knew that was your husband & still didn’t care? How would you feel? Men, how would you feel? It can be difficult but it’s not impossible to walk away. I encouraged my sister to tell her story because I’m tired of all the fakeness & people who act like they don’t make mistakes. I’m glad she confronted & admitted her part in this because it was not all just him. I am proud of her for walking away. I can see how it can be easy for this to happen. Women, who see an attractive man or vice versa, instead of IMMEDIATELY stopping the thoughts allow those thoughts to continue, will find themselves in the same situation. My pastor says, “thoughts become things if not interrupted.” This is one thing I truly do not play with….I’m not putting myself above this at all but I don’t allow married men to come on to me. I don’t allow myself to come on to them. I don’t care how fine they are. I continue to think about when I am married & how I don’t want to do anything for it to come back to me. Think about it.

So here are the questions that my sister & I will answer next on this topic:
Would you ever tell your sibling spouse if you knew that your sibling cheated?  Would you lie if they asked you? Why & Why not
Would your opinion of your sibling change if you knew they slept with someone married?

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